He is No Man
She looked at her husband, as blood dripped from her lips, she wasn’t sure if she was bleeding anywhere else. Her eyes were black and blue, from the immense beating she just received. She had bruises, scrapes, and cuts all over her body. She didn’t see or feel any other places that were bleeding except her lips and face. Her husband was passed out on the couch, with what seemed like an empty bottle of beer, she was sure because her vision was impaired. She could tell he was sleeping peacefully on the couch by the slight smile he had on his face. This was normal for her, there were only rare times he didn’t get drunk and use her as a punching bag. He would get drunk and would want to control her or tell her what she could or could not do. When she would say no he would start beating her. She was his play toy, a way for him to act his life frustrations out. To use her as he felt free to use her in anyway shape or form, and she couldn't do anything about it.
For elven years this was the norm, if anything went wrong in their marriage or someone pissed him off, he would come home get drunk and beat her to no end. There was no end to it; sometimes he would beat her to see how far he could go. It was a game, a way he could control something in his life, when everything went wrong, he at least had her under his control. He would go to jail several times over the years, just to get out a few days later and make up, and would be good for a few months until something went wrong again and he would start right back up. She even left him for a week once and went to live with her parents, but he would charm her to come back home and, nothing would change. She was caught in his web, and the children were caught in the middle and sometimes they would get the aftermath, she knew he was also beating them when she wasn’t around. She had to take the kids and leave, somehow she had to disappear from him once and for all, but how, he would find her…This happens to millions of women worldwide, and we as a society need to stand up and say enough is a enough.
To date this has to be the hardest article and blog I had to write. Yes I have written many things some that most people would or could not write. For who I am sometimes if not all the time I can’t keep something quiet that is close or important to me. I recently finished Composition II in school and got a pretty good grade, and my research was on cyberstalking, so I will also include my research in here from time to time. The reason I decided to write this article because I know many women in my life past and present that this has happen to them at least once in their lives if not more. This article is written in their behalf and nothing else. The system we have in place for the justice that needs to take place if far from justice. To many times guys are getting a slap on the hand to just be told not to do it again. So yes this article will be from what I have been told by victims of this horrible crime and will be very opinionated by me and what I think needs to be done to give the justice a new overhaul. Isn’t it about time we protect you’re the people who have fallen into this trap, to let your mothers, daughters, sisters and friends that enough is enough.
This is normal behavior for a lot of men, now I am not saying all men are bad, there are many men in this world that are very good people, but for this article I am concentrating on the men who are bad. Women need to be respected and treated and a human beings and not a piece of meat. Something that can be used and abused for men enjoyment, whenever and however they see fit. Women of this place we call earth need to stand up. The signs all too apparent, but many women are scared of men that abuse them let be more physical abuse to them or their kids. We are living in a society where this is normal everyday behavior, and the losers are the women and their children. Men have gotten use to showing their muscle in controlling women, beating them up to no end and making them their personal slaves. I say it is time to end this abuse, and stand up and take your lives back. Let no man ever again tell you what you can and cannot do. To use you as their personal punching bag. The time is now, not tomorrow, stand up for your life, take your life back and let the men of the world know that you will no longer tolerate this abuse.
We have seen movies on this time and time again “The Burning Bed” and “What’s Love Got To Do With It”. They are only a few movies and one I know for sure was a true story. It makes me happy that Tina Turner could fight the abuse and get on with her life, she showed that women could fight back and take a stand and say enough is enough, but not all women can be like she was, some women are scared to stand up for themselves, fearing that it will make it even worse. I for one think all women can stand up for themselves, I also understand the fear factor, that they don’t want to make it worse than it is, but where does the line end? When is enough an enough. There has to be a time that you have to stand up for yourself. I know my writing can be critical, but what I am trying to do is to motivate the abused women to stand up and do something about it. If you feel you can no longer stay in the situation than leave turn the guy in and take yourself and kids and go to an abused women’s shelter. No man has the right to make you feel below him, no man has the right to beat you and your kids up. The time to take action is now. Leave him now and get to safety wherever that might be get your kids and yourself to safety and turn him in for the abuse he has caused you and your kids. Start your new life today and look forward and not dwell on the past and him.
I hear the same thing all the time, but I love him? Why could someone love someone when all they do is causing you emotional and physical pain? Because he doesn’t love you, if he loved you he wouldn’t do all the things he has done to you. I firmly believe no matter how many counseling sessions you go to, no matter how many times he says he loves, and no matter all the charm he puts on you. Nine times out of ten it will go back to the way it was before, all the things he is doing is suckering you back to his control, it might be good for a while, but it won’t stay that way for long. Don’t get suckered, be strong and move on with your life. Let no man ever control you, let no man physical or emotionally abuse you ever again. This is your life and you are in control, no one else is.
To all the men who treat their women like trash, you all are the scum of the world and you are no man. Why must you treat women like they are your property? Don’t you have anything else better to do in your life? Don’t you have anything else better to do in your life and treat women like crap? I bet you don’t treat your buddies like this, because if you did they probably put you in your place or better yet kick your worthless piece of ass into the next century. You can’t control your worthless life in the real world, so you have to show how manly you are and control and beat women up. Wait you are no man, no man would treat a lady like this. Even good men would open doors for their lady, give them flowers on her birthday, pamper her on valentine’s day, and comfort her when she is sick, but no you can’t do this, why? Again it is because you are no man. I know this may be news to you, but turn yourself in, get some help before it is too late. Turn your life around, become a real man and not a little boy.
Life can be full of surprises, let it be good or bad, and when we walk down the paved road we all hope it will be a good life. This is not good for women, and we as a human race should change this. To make your mothers, daughters, co-workers and friends feel safe. If you have someone you feel is going through an abusive relationships, tell her to leave, to turn the guy in, and take their kids and her to the closest shelter for domestic violence. This can be changed we need to step up to the plate and do what is right, and we all know this isn’t right. Life is so much better. Life is full of ups and downs, don’t let this get you down, get out now and never look back.
This article was one of if not the hardest article I have ever written. I wrote this for all the women of the world who are in an abusive or emotional relationship. There is help out there, and not all men are bad, many are very abusive, but you can change your abusive relationship all you have to do is take your kids and yourself and walk out the front door and go to the nearest police station and turn him in, than go to the closest center for women and children of violence. There is help out there, but you have to take the first step. Take that step now!!! Let no man ever abuse you like this, let no man hit you or your kids. Take your life in your own hands and get out now. Never look back.
Written By Dale Jeffrey Henderson 10-20-2010
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